Embracing the Beautiful Chaos: Strengthening Your Relationship at Thanksgiving

The holiday season can be a whirlwind of emotions and responsibilities, as we navigate family dynamics and the pressures that come with it. It’s during these times that we may find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or even questioning the strength of our relationships. But fear not, for there are ways to not only survive but thrive during this journey together as a couple.

Before the chaos takes over, find a quiet moment to sit down with your spouse. Let’s call it your “sanity session.” This is an opportunity to have an open and honest conversation about your expectations and concerns. Share your thoughts, fears, and hopes for the holiday season. By doing so, you create a safe space where both of you can feel heard and supported. Remember, communication is key in any relationship, and this simple act of checking in with each other can lay the foundation for a strong and connected partnership.

Amidst the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it’s essential to pause and express gratitude. Take a moment to appreciate your spouse’s efforts and unwavering support. It could be as simple as saying “thank you” for their help with preparations or acknowledging their thoughtfulness in planning a special celebration. By validating the small acts of love and kindness, you not only make your spouse feel valued but also create a ripple effect of love and appreciation in your relationship.

Thanksgiving and other celebrations are also an opportunity to demonstrate what a strong marriage looks like to others, including your children and other family members. Be intentional in how you display affection towards your spouse, whether it’s through small gestures like holding hands or showing appreciation for one another verbally. Engage in positive and respectful conversations with each other and with family members, modeling effective communication skills. Make decisions together as a team, and be patient and understanding with one another, recognizing that the holiday season can bring added stress.

But Thanksgiving is not the only time to demonstrate these values of gratitude and appreciation. Teaching gratitude to your children and grandchildren can be integrated into daily life. Emphasize the importance of expressing appreciation for acts of kindness shown to them, such as saying “thank you” when someone does something nice for them. Help them write thank-you notes for gifts or gestures of love they receive. Foster a sense of gratitude by reminding them to be thankful for the little things in life, like a beautiful sunset or a warm meal. Encourage kindness and appreciation towards others by setting an example and reinforcing positive behavior. 

By incorporating these practices into your family’s daily life and holiday gatherings, you not only strengthen your own relationship but also inspire those around you to cultivate love, humility, and gratitude in their own lives. 

Wishing you a Thanksgiving season filled with warmth, joy, and a renewed sense of love for one another. Let this be a time of deepening your connection with your spouse and creating lasting memories with loved ones. May you find peace and contentment in each other’s company as you navigate the “beautiful chaos” of the holiday season together.

Tracy is a Marketplace Minister, licensed wedding officiant, life/marriage coach, and funeral celebrant.

To view her other content such as Topical Articles, Devotionals, Process of Illumination Blog & Practical Ministry Podcast on Substack go to tracybrichards.substack.com